(Day 4 of 31 Days to Understanding Our Mom Heart)

Becoming a mom unleashes a supernova in our soul. I’m convinced our ability to feel magnifies to the nth degree. When we are responsible for a living being fused to our emotional intellect, feelings show up like stars in a night sky.

They are everywhere and seemingly disorganized; some twinkling and others blurry. If we have high-powered binoculars of insight, the celestial sensations may form a recognizable shape. Otherwise, we are usually dumbfounded.

In addition to the plethora of inherited feelings unleashed in our heart space, some sort of switch goes off and we acquire an uncanny ability to multi-feel. Feeling elated, sorrowful, and angry at the same time happens on the norm.

Imagine the scenario of us holding a child who is crying and broken from the effects of bullying. We are able to feel all these emotions simultaneously: intense compassion and sorrow for our child’s hurt, gratitude over our child’s willingness to share her feelings, and steaming anger with an obtuse desire to kick some little arse.

Somewhere in the mix of feelings we also plan ways to boost our child’s self-esteem and teach them the importance of self-love. We may even project how this bullying incident will affect our child in the future if we don’t handle the situation proper now.

Meanwhile, at another heart level, we are ruminating over several battle plans to fix the situation. We take mental notes of scenarios we think will work, write off those we fear will fail, and muse over all the what if possibilities.

No wonder exhaustion steeps at the cellular level!



The purpose of this 31 days is to better understand our mom heart. When we consider how complex and advanced our ability to feel as a mom, we’d be better off accepting the mystery. Sometimes the best recipe is to eat what we’re made of and be satisfied.

God always knows what He’s doing; including only giving us what we can handle. And since He gave us all these feelings, we can trust in His help to manage them before they manage us.

[su_pullquote]“All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. For the more we suffer for Christ, the more God will shower us with his comfort through Christ.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-5[/su_pullquote]The key is to allow the Holy Spirit to help us distinguish between healthy and non-healthy emotions – an ongoing, almost hourly process for me! Aligning our emotions against the truth of God’s word helps us determine whether God is guiding or satan is deceiving.

Not only do we have the gift of spiritual reasoning regarding our emotions, we have the blessing of friends and loved ones in whom we can share our struggles. Sometimes talking through the myriad of feelings surrounding our circumstances helps unravel the ball of yarn.



Carry on, crazy Mommas!





For those of you who may have stumbled across this post, please check out the story behind our 31 day journey towards understanding our mom heart here.  You will find links to all the other days posted. Welcome!

Shelby is a Certified Emotional Intelligence Coach, Certified Meditation Teacher (CMT), author, freelance writer, speaker, and love enthusiast who is passionate about helping others ‘change the way they look at things so the things they look at change.’ She has numerous stories featured in the national publication, Guideposts. She also has over 160 featured articles at online publications, including Her View From Home, Scary Mommy, Parenting Teens & Tweens, For Every Mom, Love What Matters, and Today. Her book, How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don’t need to say, “I’m fine.”), co-authored with her dear friend, Lisa Leshaw, recently won the 2020 Publisher’s Weekly Book Life Prize as the finalist in the Inspirational/Spiritual category.