LOVE Advocate

Hey friend!

Are you struggling in a certain area in motherhood, marriage, or life in general? If so, you aren’t alone. This gig is hard, and we aren’t meant to figure it all out alone. I tried to do that for a long time, and when I was 35, I found myself face down on the floor, completely undone, begging God to take me. I thought my husband and three kids (ages 11, 9, & 7 at the time) were better off without me.

I couldn’t manage my emotions, felt out of control, and the guilt, shame, and despair of not being able to affect change in my life was overwhelming. I tried praying everything away, which didn’t work and only made me feel worse because I was already believing some pretty lousy stories about my worth, enoughness, purpose, and loveability— which I later learned was all tied to my childhood sexual abuse and other family trauma. Feeling like a failure as a “Christian” woman (who has since deconstructed from religion) only added to my misery. So, on this desperate night, I cried out to God from the depths and asked for me and, thus, my entire family to be put out of our misery.

God didn’t bail me out…at least not the way I wanted because I’m still here! Thank you, God. But God did bail me out the way I needed. After I woke up from my dark night of the soul and realized I didn’t get my wish, I dragged my broken self into church the next morning. The first person I saw was a family friend who changed my life forever. After collapsing in his arms and becoming inconsolable, he pressed a business card in my hand and said, “This is a dear friend of mine. Call him. He will help you.”

Thus began what is now been a 19-year journey of re-membering who I am: LOVE. The healing, unraveling, recalibrating, transforming, unlearning, descaling, and many other ‘ings’ continue to illuminate Truth. After all the talk therapy, meditation, energy healing, hypnotherapy, and countless other healing modalities and practices I’ve incorporated into my life,  the most important lesson I’ve learned (from the late, great Wayne Dyer) is when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

And you don’t have to wait for a crisis or tragedy or dark night in your life to experience such a shift. Yes, those experiences work. Many transformational moments came on the backside of a trauma or crisis that have led me to deep healing over the years beyond my dark night on the floor. But we don’t need to wait for those crises to force us into change. We can make a conscious decision to change our lives right now, at this moment. LOVE is our superpower to heal, shift, and thrive.

Our bodies are miraculous, and LOVE is the superpower guiding us to heal ourselves–emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. And the cool thing is, we kickstart these miracles with our mind because All is Mind, Source is Infinite Intelligent Consciousness.

In 2021, I was able to wean off my Lamictal medication for a bipolar diagnosis after 13 years. Turns out I didn’t have bipolar, but an unregulated trauma response. My body healed herself from all the trauma trapped inside me that was convoluting how I saw myself and the world. I did a lot of hard, intentional work, and it was worth every bit of it. Because today I’m “free.” Free from the box I was “believed” I was trapped in for so long. A box filled with limiting beliefs and shady stories about my value and worth. Today, I’m free to be my authentic OG self, stand in my truth, and use the tools I’ve learned to keep working through the inevitable struggles (learning opportunities) that come our way.

And did I mention that my body also just healed herself from a gnarly dairy allergy that manifested in 2018 after experiencing months of intense emotional stress? Well, she did, and I’m here for all of it. Here’s a link to the story. Since then, I’ve also healed from a gluten allergy, red meat allergy, and lots of other digestive issues. In November of 2023, my body healed herself of Hashimoto Thyroiditis. An autoimmune dis-ease that I agreed to and took medicine for since 2005. After 28 years and doctors saying it was impossible for me to go off meds, I’m off meds. I’m perfectly healthy. And the healings keep coming because I am taking care of my inside world–my mind and heart.

Now it’s my time to give back and share all I’ve learned so others can experience the same freedom. So others can consciously create a life that they love and love themselves the way they deserve.

I have endless love to share and wisdom to pass on from my experiences. I’ve learned from some incredible humans, not to mention hundreds of books, podcasts, documentaries, practices, and modalities that continue to help me be a better me and “we.” You can view the toolbox I created with all these resources on my sister site, Peaceful Change Begins With Me.

Yes. I’m obsessed with being a healthier me.


Because I love my kids, hubby, family, friends, and the world THAT much.  I’m grateful for this life and want to squeeze every ounce of joy from the experience and spread it around.

I want the same for YOU. We are all One, after all. Everything we do for ourselves, we do for others. Everything we do for others, we do for ourselves.

In addition to all the legwork above, I am now a Certified Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Coach and Certified Meditation Teacher (CMT). (You can meditate with me over on the FREE Insight Timer App) Please reach out and let me know how I can help. My gift to everyone is a complimentary 30-minute coffee chat via phone/video chat/in-person (if local) to connect heart-to-heart and share what I have to offer as I listen to your needs.

If you are looking for a friend and guide to inspire and encourage you forward, I am here for you…

How can I help?

Contact me at [email protected], and we’ll chat!

Loving feedback from others

My life continually takes me on unexpected journeys and as I sit deep in the spaces of uncertainty wondering exactly why it is that I am here and where it is I am going, I find a deep sense of calm and redirection after spending time with Shelby. She provides me a safe space to talk and sort through my emotions, embraces my imperfections, and guides me in finding the beauty in where I am. Shelby challenges me to step out of my comfort zone and take chances on myself. What I have come to value most in Shelby is her honesty and willingness to meet me where I am at without judgment or question. I feel loved and valued after our time together. Shelby has a refreshing way of filling me back up, by redirecting my focus and perspective. Her heart is full of compassion, her ability to really listen is a welcomed gift, and her light and joy is infectious. – Jenny

Shelby has been an incredible mentor to me for over a year and a half now. Her kindness, compassion and nurturing spirit has proven to be a light on my healing path. Her studies have catalyzed countless conversations between us that have left me feeling inspired and deeply grateful for what she has shared. If anyone is considering working with Shelby and is seeking guidance on their self-healing journey, I would recommend working with Shelby. You will likely walk away with a deeper sense of spirituality and the tools to connect more deeply within. Be prepared to learn a lot!- Tori

My life was in a very difficult stage with aging parents, stroke, dementia, and all the daily struggles caring for and managing their lives.  Shelby had a way of tuning in and bringing me a different perspective along with peace for the long, difficult journey. I can’t imagine being on that long road without Shelby’s soul reaching suggestions, meditations, and advice.  Seeing my situation through her intuitive heart allowed me to grow personally and be more present with my Mom, especially at the end of her life. I will be eternally grateful for her walking with me on some very tough days. – Linda

Talking with Shelby feels like ‘coming home’ for the soul. She has a way of enveloping you in the kind of compassion and love that makes you feel immediately safe, seen, and heard. I always feel a sense of belonging when talking through hard stuff with Shelby and her ability to share vulnerably and authentically from her own dark/growth seasons makes me feel like I’m not alone in mine. She is a light and a true gift to this world.  – Em