SHELBY SPEAR

author | speaker | storyteller

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Here’s the thing. Motherhood is hard, and our struggles are real. We are in dire need of finding Grace in the mishmash of our daily lives, which is why I created this space. This site is somewhere for you to feel safe pulling back the veil on all the broken and challenging parts of motherhood while embracing the laughter and joy of the beautiful moments. Consider your visit here a rush of grace in both directions.

Here’s the other thing. Authenticity heals. I want you to feel loved and accepted for who you are, precisely where you’re at. Leaning into each other and sharing stories helps us realize we aren’t alone on a motherhood island. Although our experiences are unique, we share the same emotional shore. I’m a firm believer that it takes a village to care for the village, Mommas. We need each other, and this village is for you.

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A Look at the Beatitudes
From Inside Our Mom Heart

Who I am as a Mom
in Christ

You Are Not Alone
in How You Feel

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This friend letter comes to your inbox once a month with all sorts of things including one new blog post, links to other stories I share around the web, books and podcasts I’m enjoying, and an early heads-up about all things new and fun. When you subscribe, you will receive 3 FREE Chapters of my new book with Lisa Leshaw, “How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don’t need to say, “I’m fine.”)

how's your mom heart?

WHAT IF A FEW SIMPLE SHIFTS IN PERSPECTIVE COULD HELP YOU EASE ALL THE DOUBTS, CONFUSION, AND INSECURITY THAT COME WITH MOTHERHOOD?

What if these shifts could help you reduce stress, release mom guilt, and build your confidence so you actually believe you are good mom?

The truth is, if we love ourselves the way we love our kids and offer ourselves the grace to learn, grow, and evolve one day at a time, then the entire experience of motherhood can be a beautiful and more peaceful journey even amidst the tough stuff we deal with.

In this course, I share the 10 practices that have had the greatest impact on my mothering journey and relationships with my kids over the past 26+ years. I’ve come to learn that even small, intentional shifts in how we approach the tough stuff of mothering can result in sweeping peace and lasting confidence.

HOW ARE YOU FEELING, MOMMA? LIKE FOR REAL? WOULDN’T IT BE NICE TO STOP PRETENDING YOU ARE FINE AND JUST TELL THE RAW TRUTH?

What if you could admit that you are feeling afraid, alone, overwhelmed, guilty, confused, vulnerable, and everything in between?

Well, you can. And we did in this book. Motherhood is hard. We all feel the same emotional tugs and pulls even though our circumstances are unique. How Are You Feeling, Momma? meets you where you’re at with realness and authenticity–and a heavy dose of wit.

There are 31 chapters for 31 different emotions, and each one includes candid and personal reflections from the perspective me, a Christian all things love mom from Ohio, and my dear friend Lisa Leshaw, a Jewish step-mom/grandma from New York. Each feeling is tied to a specific Psalm scripture and includes a personal reflection question.

We have 66+ years of combined parenting between us which qualifies us for nothing much. Just lots of experience. Our book is a joint effort to provide some spiritual uplift for mommas in the trenches of motherhood, and a reminder to mommas and grandmas everywhere that they are not alone in how they feel.

how you can spread positivity and support TWLOHA (To Write Love On Her Arms)

visit my Be LOVE shop where 100% proceeds go to this non-profit movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide

some words from others

“Shelby writes the words of every momma’s heart. She is wise and wonderful and her words bring unity and joy.” ~ Jami Amerine, friend and author of Stolen Jesus: An Unconventional Search for the Real Savior and Sacred Ground, Sticky Floors

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“Shelby renews your spirit and rejuvenates your soul, making you want to look deeply to discover your inner beauty & find your best voice.” ~ Lisa Leshaw, friend and co-author of How Are You Feeling, Momma? and author at Guideposts & Chicken Soup for the Soul