As moms and dads, our felt experiences and reactions to all things parenting can be very different—the whole Mars and Venus thing. Our hubbies tend to roll with the situation, maybe get a little emotional for a moment (mine is known to break down more than the average), and then they move on to the next square in the breakfast Belgian. Think waffles. As in, men are like waffles.

Ladies operate on a noodle. Think pasta. As in, women are like spaghetti. We flow everywhere in all directions on a continuum, while our guys deal with a specific task before moving to the next. Therefore, while men compartmentalize, women speed skate back and forth across a wide spectrum of Olympic ice.

Sometimes our differences in intense situations can be shocking, usually in a good way. Our hubbies often try to infuse a measure of lightness into our melodrama. God bless them for saving the day.

Skip on over to Her View From Home to see one way my man decided to lighten a heavy mom moment. You’d be surprised how often our guys do this!

Our Kids Need Lady Spaghetti and Man Waffles

Noodle on, crazy Mommas!


A self-described “sappy soul whisperer and sarcasm aficionado,” Shelby is a wife of 27 years & mom of three 20-something kiddos. She has a deep love for Jesus and storytelling, and most days she muses in rhetorical wonder over what God was thinking when He put her in charge of three humans. Although God’s quick to remind her how capable she is, apparently He sometimes does so while crossing His fingers behind His back. You can read her stories around the web and in print at Guideposts.